It feels like a Sunday, not like we had a three-day weekend, that’s how busy everything’s been.
Saturday we were up and out the door by 7:30am on our way to McMinnville. We had a first birthday party to attend: close friends of ours who had asked us to be their son’s guardians (should the need arise), so off we went. We made good time over the pass, despite the bitter cold and snow warnings here in Bend—in reality we had sunny blue skies and nearly spotless roads.
Some sidenotes. McMinnville is pretty much right in the heart of Oregon wine country; we saw many signs for wineries on the way there and the way back, including the Eola Hills Winery, though we really didn’t have the time to stop at any. McMinnville itself is a town of just over 30,000, about half the size of Bend, and has a cute little historic downtown. Also, the locals refer to it as “Mack.”
Anyway, the party was fun, we hung out and visited with our friends that evening, and had lunch with them the next day before heading for home. Over the pass this time we had to nearly stop for an accident at Lost Lake, but we missed this one by about half an hour. Traffic was backed up for three hours at that one.
Those made for some long days. To top that off, my in-laws have been in town, and have been entertained as well. So things have just been busy. And tiring.
Could I have another day off? To catch up? Anyone?
Oh, do i have a lot to say about this one….
I’m so disappointed we didn’t get to go to a winery Saturday when we got over the mountain so early. And then we *could* have made it between 3:30-5, but that didn’t work. It was a fun party and I’m glad we made it up there.
However, I must say that if you ask someone *NOT* to visit, they should respect that. You decline to mention that when your inlaws were in town over the weekend, their daughter made it clear that we were busy and since she hasn’t talked to them since NOVEMBER, um…GET A CLUE.
now, on to your part of it…i do understand you trying to keep the peace, but I have said numerous times…if they listen and respect me…maybe I’ll start wanting to talk to them or let the kids talk to them.
We have caller id, you do not need to answer the phone…you do not need to have the kids talk to them…you do not need to be chauffeur or peacekeeper anymore as if what you said is true…I will have to find drastic measures if they come here again in May.
I’m trying to keep the kids out of this and let them talk to them, but they are still oblivious to my wishes or if i had talked to them and told them to back off…….they wouldn’t hear it. I have said it. We have joked before about them not listening to us and still visiting 5-6 times a year for a week at a time. They do what they want, when they want and I’m sick of taking money and things from them (still mad at you about NOT telling me about the flowers and the wishy-washy card from them that I had to turn away, although you did redeem yourself when you did not bring them here).
If you do not stand by your wife (and at least *try* to understand where she’s coming from), then what’s going on between me and them will continue to create tension and not just when they "visit".
Please stop being the peacekeeper, it’s not helping smooth things over.
Um….you guys need to talk more offline…
/me confused….
WOW so remind me of AJ & I – we talk more via email than in person – yeesh that’s what can happen with jobs & 4 kids right? RIGHT???!!! 🙂
Hugs to you both – and good luck figuring it out